In the past I have had a PMA . As time has gone on, nothing has changed and this eroded the PMA. I will now buoy my PMA with a conscious effort to remain positive and a validate every time I speak. I will "fake it till I make it". I'll give you an update on how it worked next week. The weekends are the time I interact with my wife the most.
I remember asking you a while back about your interactions because I feared that to be the case. It is understandable and normalbut it does not help anyone.
Yes please do keep me informed. Do not expect to see results from W. This has to be for you first. Later who knows.
Have a good day
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
My goodness you have some excellent people follow you, mu.
Detachment. Such a tricky little thing. I'll play with your tendency to more Eastern in your thoughts and philosophy to add a couple other thoughts to you. I love some of the Eastern philosophies like Buddhism and Taoism.
Whereas we, in our wonderful Western world, worry so much about how we fit into our relationships and community, the images that we portray, and how others respond to us, some of the Eastern philosophies take another stance that are so similar to DBing. They are about just Being. Detaching away from others' judgments and striving to simply be the best we can be. You can determine what that looks like, and your wife has zero power to determine or change it.
You need to "be like water". Water takes the shape it needs to be at that moment, but it never stops. It is always moving forward, adapting, overcoming. A little stream, a little consistent action can turn a creek into a river gorge with enough time and effort.
M: 8.5 T:10 Me:37 W:34 S:6
Retrouvaille and W moves back- 7/31/15 Piecing - 7/4/15 to present
Hi Squiggy, thank you for stopping by, welcome. My friends are very kind, they share their wisdom and insights with me. This journey would be very difficult without them.
Your words ring true. Thank you for taking the time to share them with me. I just discovered Heraclitus the other day, have you read any of his ideas?
I would like to post more but I am falling asleep at the key board. Thanks again
Another day comes to an end. I still feel daily disappointment when my wife chooses to ignore me, today is no exception. So today's post is about the same old thing. I don't have a lot to say, I wish you all peace, good night.
Hi Mu! I am still here. Posting less because I feel very repetitive. I am not going anywhere. Still in limbo. Struggling with the same crap that we all are. Hope you are doing well and enjoying your welding class. Good night Mu!
Mu, I'm not posting much because I have little to say too. That doesn't mean things are bad, just calmer. Less turmoil in my head.
I wish we could get together someday. It would be nice to actually talk to you, having so much in common. You need to be able to vent, and have someone understand you.
Wishing you a great weekend!
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....
