When we try to forgive in our own human strength, it is difficult not to look at what we get, or don't get, in return. In the Spirit of Christ, we can forgive based on His strength. He give us the strength to forgive without expecting anything in return.
Obviously, a wayward spouse is not in close fellowship with the Lord, and your W is thinking in the flesh and not the Spirit. You would think that even human rationale could see her double standard, but apparently her resentment has her brain too clouded to use the tiniest logic yet.
Are the two of you seeing a counselor beside the Pastor? I was never sure.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
