Thank you.I read what you wrote a few hours ago but just now able to sit down and relax and talk.
I took it as hiw request, his problem like you said and just ended the conversation.I let it go!! I wanted to say something SO BAD but that would be the old me.BUT I just ignored him.
I then decided I needed a break and to get out of my house. I packed up my kids, my dog, and left to go spend the night at my moms. Give the kids time with her and just B.R.E.A.T.H.E.
I HAPPENED to pass him on the way to my moms so I was 50% sure he was headed to my house. 15 minutes later He called me from our house phone wondering where I was with the pets and kids in the middle of the afternoon.
He said he felt bad that he was grumpy earlier and brought us all milkshakes and I wasn't home. I was polite and said well, you never called and let me know you were coming over. I'm across town now and will be gone for the night. You need to start telling me when you would like to visit so we can coordinate our plans. He was like yeah,I know I just like surprising you and visiting. Im going to stay for a few hours and playmy ps4 and eat a snack. (Thats fine with me, he pays the bills and buys the food and I'm not there so whatever.)
He wanted to know where I was going, who with, what time id be back tomorrow. I was good! I was upbeat, mysterious. I said I'm not sure. I just know I'm not going to sit at home and feel sorry for myself. I'm going to get out and start doing things that make me happy and that I would see him tomorrow. He was like wait, what, dont hang up, why are you getting off the phone?
He wanted to give me the details of his night out, what,who, when, why he came over to my house early. He wouldnt stop talking. It was different.
I was always scared if I was FIRM AND STOOD UP for myself and HAD BOUNDARIES AND 100% really did it FOR ME that he would flip out or make things worse.
Actually made ME FEEL GREAT and I got to know everything I wanted without asking a single question. Plus an apology. I like this.
Im not actually going out tonight. Im going to snuggle my mom and kids and watch movies. We went to the mall, got new Victoria secret panties, took the kids to dinner and now chilling until bed time. I will say my day was 90% good with 10% frustration and annoyedness.
