I've read your latest posts and can't believe how much we have in common.
I, too, thought I had made it through MLC land, but things never seemed right. I was back here after a few years wondering why I was here again so soon.
I agree with Job. It could be that he didn't finish his journey for some reason. Mine apparently didn't and I found myself here again. The "new" marriage was never better, in any way whatsoever.
I've been in the same place as you. Feeling more pity than love, making him move out, considering tossing in the towel (I think I have a post along those lines), wanting to just get him out of my life just so I could have some peace and move on with my life.
I still have thoughts along those lines from time to time ... he's not done with his journey. How much more can I withstand?
The only thing I can say is to listen to what Job and others have said. Take things slowly. Be sure that calling it quits is the best thing for you, not only in your head, but in your heart.
I suppose the question you have to ask is do you have anything more to give? I didn't think I did, but realized I wasn't ready to throw in the towel. But I'm definitely not an expert ... just a fellow traveler.
My heart goes out to you because I so understand where you are. I've been there ... am there ... depending on the day.
{{{hugs}}}
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013
