Pink, All I can so is "go girl"! You've turned things around and look at what you've accomplished thus far in less than a couple of weeks of being on the MLC Forum!
I think you've handled the texting w/your xh very well and back and forth about the scheduling sounds iike it is going smoothly. I had to chuckle over the dirty clothes and I'm sure it shocked him to no end, but I don't blame you. You sent your sons on their way w/clean clothes, therefore, they should return the way they left.
Your xh shedding tears and telling you he doesn't know what to do tells me that he is conflicted...but he's already made the decision and that is to leave his family and live on his own.
Now about the game, it's up to you, but if I were in your shoes, I'd let him figure out what he's going to do about that one. He can stay home, go to a friend's house or go to a sports bar and watch the game. Do you want him in your space all afternoon and into the evening? You'd be fixing snacks and meals for him while he's there. It's no longer your place to take care of him...but that is all up to you. After all, he fired you from being his wife a while ago.
BTW, I think you are providing some really good advice to the newest member over on Newcomers'.
Keep up the good work and whatever you decide to do on Sunday, it will all work out.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
