LBH w/ a WXW after the D - now what

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I think she may be done "sowing her oats" and be starting to realize she screwed up but I'm not sure she's hit bottom enough to do whatever it takes to get us back. She has already told me twice that she is ready to start counseling and has hinted that she would like us to go to the movies. The first time was 6 days after our D was finalized. But it's all around this fantasy that she can do what ever she likes carrying on multiple A's, D me, we can have our separate homes, then we'll start dating and get married again.

This may happen if she gets the help she needs and actually takes the steps necessary to reconcile a relationship. I can't just get back together with her without her recognizing what she has done was wrong, without her getting help for her anger and insecurity issues. I won't be bullied again. I won't be passive again. I won't let her control me again. I won't let her squash who I am again.