Ebbs and flows

[SciDad]

Thanks for the help - my mind is spinning with the new job, wrapping up the old job, and my relationship...

I think the best action is to treat it like a family event this year, and tell my wife why. Frankly, we are both likely to get hurt (either by feeling pressured or by having unrealistic expectations) if we try to do something even remotely romantic.

I'll work out the specifics in the next few days, but I think my mind is getting a little clearer. Still need to work on trusting the moment and not reading too much into anything. That includes both good things that build my expectations and bad things that erode my trust in her. I need to realize that she is here, with me, and that is a hell of a lot to work with.