Hi Is, I guess you could let your W know that your preference would be to S, with a view to D after 2 years if that is what you both want at that point. She may say yes and she may say no. I told my H I would prefer that, but he didn't want us to settle finances without D and he wasn't willing to wait, and chose to file on UB grounds.
For me, I never wanted to D, but now it draws close, I'll be happy for us to have things resolved. I think if we tried to repair things, it would be from the ground up and I would rather do that from a place of complete independence - but then I haven't seen my H for 18 months, so I guess that makes things a little easier. As you say, there would be some compromises if you agree to wait for a while longer - but I bet your boys may enjoy sharing a room - especially with bunk beds!
Take care & good luck with the L appt
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
