Would that help that you have been married and everything is shared during the year of 2015?
If it still does not help to make your mind about filling, then think about your children. How would then benefit for having their parents get a little more return?
Look at this as business, it does not matter if he will benefit from it or not. Half of all this is yours by right, so think about your return in this. You are a stay home mom, so your work address is your home address, got it!!!
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Besides, who wrote in stone that you will get divorced? He asked for it...but did not served you yet. He said he needs a separation to think about things, so you are giving him his desired space so he can put his thoughts in order.
Meanwhile, you will do your best to get yourself sometime to think about things that are related to yourself. Some things you will find out you love and decide to keep it, some you will hate and wants a total redo, some you are not certain yet, so you will go after some info and make your mind up when you are ready for it.
I read your response and I am sorry things went so bad lately. But hope is the last to die and people do change their minds very often. Your H had a boiling brain, but it will cool off soon and he will settle and start seeing things in another perspective. Besides, I do think that there was something fishy about it. You smelled it for a reason. But, who knows, maybe it is nothing.
Another suggestion is that if you have health insurance from your H, then start looking into some IC for yourself. It will help you to get some solid ground under your feet. You need to gather support now. It is very important so you don't go crazy. If he moves forward with the D, once it is done, you will need to get your own health insurance. If you look for an IC now, you have some months, a year or longer to get some well deserved help from a professional. Plus, he will see that you are serious about changing, that you were depressed about being a SHM, talking Dora de Explorer all the time. It may be even positive.
And I know about crazy, I think I had it in all levels. Now I have at a few levels, LOL.
Also, do you have a bank # 2 - the one only know about and no one will ever find it? If not, think about putting some money aside. A little at a time, so he does not suspect you are building some cash on the side.
This is not really robbing him, it is protecting yourself. Since you do not work, your income is only from him and you do not have access to bank account, so start today.
