WAW has seen a L and given notice that she is petitioning for D. I have 21 days to reply through my L. I see my L in 2 days. We are still Inhouse separated - separate bedrooms and bathrooms. We still communicate in person, via text, email. She still cooks the occasional meal for me, I still do housework etc, we talk about the kids and work, things are friendly without being overly warm. We watch TV in the evening on the same couch when we are both home and in on the same evening - which is not very often. I am trying to work away as much as possible - usually 2/3 nights a week. This puts more of the childcare pressure on her but it would also be like this if we separate formally.
WAW says she did it because I left her no option because I refused to leave the family home and separate - in the past she intimated that she wanted us to separate for 2 yrs then have an 'amicable' D. This is a legal option for D in the UK.
She said she was sorry for filing under Unreasonable Behaviour but she had no other option.
So my question is (and I guess only my L can answer it) : should I say through my L that I will accept S now if she doesn't file for D. We get a legal separation and agree to the financials going forward I.e. share costs for my rental. The D clock will start to tick ( remember it already has). She has the right of course to continue �and file under Unreasonable Behaviour at any time.
What's it for me? It buys me time and we get physical space to do our own thing? I can detach but leave the keep the road home smooth.
If she says no, I don't lose anything, she can march or crawl down the road to D. if she says yes then I would probably have to accept a smaller rental than I want just to be able to move out.
Our boys would have to share a bedroom - for 2 years possibly.
What's in it for her? Not a lot depending on her perspective and guilt complex. She might just think it's prolonging the agony, or she might agree and think this way it's more amicable.
Opinions please?
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
