Yesterday's blizzard brought some things to a head. The snow started around 11 am, with strong winds.
I texted W in the early afternoon to see if s14 could crash at her place for the night (which is where s14 is dropped off by his school bus.) This would let me avoid having to travel in the height of the snowstorm.
W called me. She was upset and started crying. She told me s14 needs to be with me for the next 2 week. I need to stand up for s14 right now. I asked her what was going on and she told me a scary story:
Sunday night om made a nice meal and he "politely" invited s14 to come out of his room and to eat together. He left s14's bedroom door open to encourage him to come out - s14 shut the door.
A little later, om went back to s14's bedroom to invite him to have some dessert W made, leaving the door open. S14 shuts the door. W tells me no cross words were said by om, and no raised voices. Ya, right.
After this, om went back to s14's bedroom asked s14 if he wanted to come and help clean up the kitchen with W and om, and s14's response was to slam the open bedroom door.
S14 became agitated, and W tried to calm him down. But s14 ended up grabbing a kitchen knife and threatened to stab om. Noooo!
S14 ended up walking around the neighborhood that night until 4 am - it was cold. Monday morning was when s14 was throwing up during his 1st class and I picked him up from school, and I have had him ever since.
W's story makes no sense, and I know there are always 2 sides to a story. But something set s14 off, and he is big and strong, and if he loses his temper bad things might happen.
Last night s14 was picking his toenails and I asked him if we wanted a toenail clipper, and a flash of rage came over him as he said "No. You're making me angry!" I used this as a learning opportunity and told him that sometimes I get angry I wear a rubber band on my wrist, and when I feel that emotion, I snap the rubber band to help me pull myself back.
S14immediately calmed down, and said "Dad I was just joking."
But I do see glimpses of the 'old' s14 already. He is smiling. Laughing. Dancing (the Cam Newton version of the 'Dab'.) He is joking around with me.
I see that I have to protect our son from W's lifestyle. I will fight for custody if/when W brings her divorce Petition. I can drive s14, and I will have him as long as he wants to be here.
