Keefa, One of the things that helped me along the way was knowing that my W was no longer the girl I married. The person that she turned into is not someone that I want to be married to. This was my decision, although it's not right for everyone. We all made mistakes before our BD's that led us here. Learn from them and correct them, but do not dwell on them. Mistakes aside, we made the same commitments to our spouses that they made to us the day we were married. We imperfectly held to that commitment and were/are actively trying to remain committed now. They are not. Think about that for a minute. The loss of wife, children, family, future dreams, assets...etc is killing you. For her, it's an inconvenience on the path to be with someone else. Your old wife is gone. Is this new version of her someone that you want to fight for and remain committed to for the rest of your life?
Me-40's W- 40's Married 22, Together 29 BD#1- 6/15 W needs space BD#2- OM confirmed PA 1/8/16 Still both home, but not for long
