The Start of my Happiness 2

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[quote=Tyler12]Now the issue is this. I think it's a better option for me to get the boys Friday like i usually do and get the older 2 Saturday and we can do his b day at my place. If W wants to drive up for it I guess that's fine. I just don't really care if she is there or not.

So how would you guys approach this discussion? Just flat out say. I will meet you Friday as normal? And when she brings up S1 bday or the somewhat plans we had how do I say sorry. You chose a separated life, this is how it's going to be. [quote]

Tyler, how exciting that your son is turning 1! That should (and will) be a great day. There are times that you and your wife have to put your differences aside and act like adults. As adults, you can get along for one day. Saturday isn't about you or your wife, it's about your sweet little boy and the celebration of his first birthday. That day is about him, so put what he wants above what either of you do or don't want. I can promise that if you try to keep your W away from him on his first bday you will be met with a LOT of anger and resentment.

I think it's absolutely fair that you get the younger 2 on Friday just as you normally would. Then, you can get the older 2 on Saturday. If it were me, I would contact your spouse and tell her what you're planning and see what she says. If she has something different in mind, don't reject it without thinking about it. Just because it's her idea, doesn't mean it's not a good one. Then, perhaps you can both compromise and choose something in that you can both agree on and be happy with. If she is willing to work with you and be willing to compromise, then work with her. If she puts her foot down and tries to run the show, then explain nicely that you would like to work together to make it a wonderful day for him and that you would appreciate her working with you on making sure that happens. If she's still not going to work with you on it, then have it at your house and invite her. At that point, she can either come or not, but you will know that you tired to put your son's happiness above yours or your wife's.

That's just my opinion. I hope it works out well and that he has a great birthday.