Jguy I have had the moments when I thought all was lost and wanted to give up. I am sure there will be more of those to come.
I alos see things in the way she is now and wonder why in th world do i want her still.
Those are all common for all of us.
Read on the stockdale paradox. very interesting. I basically talks about having hope but not ignoring the current situation for what it is. You can just sit around and be optimistic without addressing reality.
I have also noticed through this that i just go through phases of good times and bad.
Oddly enough, i just got off the phone with the kids on the way to school while she is in the car and she was doing a lot of talking. It felt good. I made sure to focus on talking to the kids, but did acknowledge her as well.
While this felt good, now the kids are with me for a few days and my mind normally races when she is not with them as to what she is doing and who she is with etc...
Something i am trying very hard to let go of.
I do really believe as crappy as are situations are, that we were given this challenge to make us into something better.
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Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
