Thanks all for your thoughts - I do feel more settled about my response on the financials, particularly as this was the formula H suggested to me a while ago. Not sure why he then came back with a lower settlement offer, but oh well.
HaWho, yes that is interesting and you can see why we go through a phase of trying to catch up with their needs and bend ourselves all out of shape in the process.
Just thought I'd post a quick update. Nothing much to report, but have had quite a social time. Went out with a friend on Sun pm to hear some live music, and then working last couple of days. I'm off today and meeting up with a friend for lunch, then yoga tonight. Last night I had my gym induction and did a workout, which was good.
All is quiet from H and the L's since I responded on financials, so we'll wait and see on that one. From later this month, H will be able to finalise the D, so I imagine he will be keen to get everything resolved. I'm feeling pretty calm about it all again now. The one thing that stays on my mind is the need for our marital home to be cleared at some point. That weighs on me, and I think of it most days. I could take the initiative and get stuff out now, but I don't feel it makes sense to try and sell a half empty house, and practically I have all I need just now. I guess I'll just be glad when that bridge is crossed.
More social plans coming up with my divorce group chums, so that is pleasant. We have a 'chat group' so there is some ongoing banter back and forth on that - all very nice. So, I'm generally doing fine and pleased that Spring is going to be around the corner. I'm still practicing gratitude and one that is on today's list....
Have a great day all xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
