Ghostbusting Round 5 Detaching my feelings

[ATPeace]

Fogg I will take a look

Mediation letter arrived today so I guess will be in the next week or two

I really am not sure what I want other than to get back with my W and she wants none of that.

I do not want to discuss only having the kids only three days a week and I do not feel ready to discuss selling house and divorcing being on my own

She will steer the ship if I do not and I will be just a passenger

This is not a vessel I can stop and one way or another she is going to get what she wants

Hey G,

This up here ^^^^^^^^ is why your W is taking the next step to mediation. Your insistence on taking no action means she has feels she has to. ......why do I not understand this why do I not see this so should I be the one pushing for mediation driving things forward

That up there is the same behaviour of you walking in from work and spending the evening on your computer and not participating. This behaviour absolutely confirms to wife everything that she believes.

Your wife keeps gifting you opportunities to show her the man and father you can be. Do you see that G? Jelly I am either dumb or stupid I must be or I am just not seeing things at all clearly ...your W is gifting you opportunities to show her the man and father you can be....

If you want to be the captain of your family's ship G, you gotta step up and take the wheel and take charge. Take charge ..yes I want to be the captain so I have to be the one to decide it is over and that I am going to move forwards is this what you mean jelly ????

Sandi asked an excellent question. When is your next IC. Figure out what you want and go for it. You"re still in this if you want to be G. I am seeing her on Friday I will talk about how I detach and move on with my life and get over her

I'm here hoping you are gonna grab yourself by the **** and show her what you got. If not now, when? Jelly ...Ok am I reading here that I should not put up with this [censored] any longer and I should be the the one to show her that [censored] it I am selling I am going to move things forwards with or without her in my life is the what I need to be doing or have I got this so very wrong ...all I think about is what about the kids why break up their living arrangements and if I push for separate homes lives then this lands on my shoulders I will have to look them in the eye and tell them I made the decision to break the family up......or do I look them in the eye and tell them that I did this for them and that hopefully one day they will understand why I did it and I did it for the good of the family

Watching and waiting.

Jellyxxx