The Start of my Happiness 2

[Tyler12]

I have been contemplating a upcoming issue I have. My youngest son turns one next Saturday and it is a huge deal to me to be with him on his b day. When my D turned 1 I made the decision to go to work that day and miss her party. It is one of my biggest regrets.
The issue is this. Before W left and possible before DB, we talked about the weekend of his birthday. Normally I would get the all the kids Friday. That weekend however D12 and S9 have a dance at school Friday night and have been involved in planning it. So arrangements were made to get them Saturday morning. youngest a b day.

I mentioned meeting with W Saturday at a neutral location to have S1 b day with all the kids and that I didn't see her place as an option as I wasn't comfortable with who may be at the party as well. We never really made a solid plan.

Now the issue is this. I think it's a better option for me to get the boys Friday like i usually do and get the older 2 Saturday and we can do his b day at my place. If W wants to drive up for it I guess that's fine. I just don't really care if she is there or not.

So how would you guys approach this discussion? Just flat out say. I will meet you Friday as normal? And when she brings up S1 bday or the somewhat plans we had how do I say sorry. You chose a separated life, this is how it's going to be.

I am nervous of the anger I am sure I will be confronted with and the possible backlash from it. And also the negative affect on any part of her that isn't done with me.

I know I shouldn't care but I do still