Letting go, finally

[JGuy]

So after that MC session today, despite feeling glad that she has showing interest in going back to NC again, I have some obvious concerns. How on earth can I possibly trust that she's really doing it? I have decided no more snooping. I don't want to pressure her to give up her passwords because anything at all that I ask for seems highly likely to come across as controlling / pressure. The MC hinted to her during the session that if she wanted to, my W could show me her phone to help reassure me.

My gut tells me that I should just sit tight, not have any expectations. Remain cautious, don't pursue. Just wait and see what she does. I imagine that at some point, she may want to be closer. If and only if she pursues me seeking closeness, I could use that opportunity to share that I'm feeling hesitant, scared of trusting that she's being truthful. I'm not sure exactly what I would say or how I would say it... I want to make sure that I don't come across as controlling anymore.

My wife has said before and said again today in the MC session that the trust issue seems like a deal breaker to her. She doesn't know if she can trust herself let alone get me to trust her again. She also doesn't know how she can trust me that I'm not snooping anymore. I get the sense that this is a matter to be dealt with very delicately, but I'm not sure how. It seems like of like horse whispering.

Any tips on how to be a good WW whisperer?