You're right, I don't want to be anyone's Plan B. I don't know if she's with ow or not, but I assume she is. When she said she wants to be alone for a while longer, I didn't really assume that means that she's not with ow. I guess for now, I am OK with the fact that she's conflicted. I want to do whatever it takes to get her back. Even if that means doing nothing. Nothing except working on me, trying to be happy, trying to get a life.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Snow day here near the land of Oz. there won't be any W sightings today. My plan is to hunker down and read all my self help books. I hope she misses me today... Normally we would go snowshoeing and watch movies. Big sigh.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
"Facing encounters that raise your anxiety tests your maturity, strengthens you if you have the courage to stand fast and let matters unfold, or weakens you if you fall back into reactivity and defensiveness. Making contact, letting others be themselves while you continue to be yourself, and learning to resist automatic reactions strengthens you and transforms your relationships. Staying open and staying calm—that’s the hardest part. You do the best you can."
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
'MB, when you wake up, no drive bys, ok? I drove by OW's house twice. No sign of her car, so I still don't know if it's really hers. I googled her and a voter registration came up at this address... Could be old for all I know.'
I'm now cross with you! What's this?! You're thisclose to being a stalker. Get a grip of yourself for real.
Darn it, you found out! Don't be cross. I just want to know where she lives. I know, even as I write that I realize it's ridiculous. And I would hate it if she saw me. Sorry...
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
You're playing with fire now. You're doing so well. Your detaching is working on your W. I can see that. We all can. Now she knows you're fine and she doesn't have you...and I know she'll want you. If, however, she catches you stalking her then all this work you've done goes out the window and you go back to being the clingy, needy, train wreck. Clingy needy people are HUGELY unattractive partners. Nobody likes that. Please continue with what has been working. Don't F it up.
Getting caught would be awful, I agree. And I'm not sure what I gain by finding out where she lives. At least I only go there when I'm already in the 'hood. And it's only been Sunday and today... Does that help restore your faith in me Wonka and Fo?
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Thanks TX for reminding me about all the progress I'm making. I'm anxious that I haven't heard a peep since Friday, but I'm trying so hard to be patient.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
