WW, My Addiction, Patience, and HOPE Part II

[Zues126]

She did not talk to me the rest of the night, on the drive home, or when she went to bed.

She's still upset today - posted a satirical comic on FB pointing to a husband's inadequacy vs. his wife's doing things for him for 15 years - husband thinks he's awesome for doing things for 2 months.

This is gross. This is blatantly disrespectful. I am glad you called her on it. I could see myself setting putting any thought of R on hold if she was going to act this way. Hey, if you need time to sort things out, take some time. But don't come around with crap like this. And don't take too long and expect me to still be here. Then letting go and moving forward.

Marriage is close to impossible enough without this warped mindset that you are the 15 year victim and have suffered and walked a journey your clueless spouse could never understand. Ick.

If I choose to want complete Reconciliation, I'm going to have to acknowledge to my W that what I did was just as bad as what she has done. That's really difficult for me - my heart was never with the computer, but to my W, my heart was never with her. Her heart is still with OM.

This is equally distasteful. You never connected with a party outside of your marriage. And you darn sure didn't walk away from your spouse over porn.

But whatever. There are times in marriage when you have to just shrug and go with the flow. In the big picture if she isn't cheating and you aren't watching porn then it doesn't really matter what the score was.

Hang in and keep no expectations.