ILYNILWY and it's done? Gift of 1 month

[Butterc]

Anyone find getting into something like kickboxing helped their process? If I cancel my gym and massage subscriptions, that would be the same amount of payment per month, and give me a way to get through my anger. I only have one Adirondack chair left to smash. (See previous comments)

[Butterc]

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[mutatio]

Mentally, meditation helped me tremendously. Physically, I just used our elliptical exercise machine. I went to an anger management counselor who showed me the key to controlling anger is mindfulness. Mindfulness is taught in meditation. In the long run meditation would be the most effective way to overcome anger issues. I'm sure kickboxing is great physical exercise. Just saying, good luck

[Butterc]

Meditated this morning. Down all day. Fatigued. A stay at home day after a full weekend.

I don't feel up to grocery shopping on a Sunday. Quite hate it.

Told child she needs to get something for her dad's birthday. She's dragging her feet. SO not interested.I have encouraged her because I think she should celebrate with him. She wants to, and she doesn't want to.

He's ignored her all weekend. Will blame it on his work schedule. Guaranteed he's not sitting at home, brooding.

[Butterc]

Been on MB's board and not meaning to hijack so I moved it over here.

It's really hard to do any sort of repair work when they are in that phase.

He is still in his fog with OW. Probably still getting his needs met by her, I am just the mother of his child at this point.

[Butterc]

So D asks if her dad is in A. She overheard me talking to a friend we know in very similar sitch with a child the same age. My IC suggested I tell her to ask her dad if the question ever came upon and that's what I replied. Then D confesses she went on my computer and saw that I had written A "confirmed ".

He would eventually have to deal with the fact that his behavior is responsible for why D no longer idolizes him or maybe even no longer respects him.

I'm spinning. I'm both parents. He's more and more acting like a Disney dad.

[mutatio]

I read this the other day, give it to your husband.

Sow a thought and reap a deed
Sow a deed and reap a habit
Sow a habit and reap a character
Sow a character and reap a destiny.

[Rouky]

I know how you feel. I'm in the same situation as you as STBXH is acting like a Disney dad. It's hard as we have to be the good/ bad cop at the sane time. In the end it'll all work out, since my separation I have never received so much kisses/ cuddles from kids. Their dad isn't getting that as in the end they are missing it, and unfortunately they won't be able to get back the full time they could have had if they hadn't made an unwise decision.

[Rednail]

I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. I know it must be very VERY hard on your D as well as you. My dad had multiple affairs and even 2 kids while married to my mother. I know at her age mine had already divorced (they divorced when I was 13) but I know the pain and she feels. I would go through cycles of hating-loving him at that age. I would want to spend time with him but then knowing how bad he was hurting my mom made me hurt and want to go home. I think its good you want her to do something for his birthday but I wouldnt force it.

Just know that she will truely love and look up to you as being there for her. I know my mom is my rock as I'm going through this and we are very close because of what she went through with my dad.

I hopeyou are having a good day today.

[job]

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