I'm so tempted to contact her. But you are keeping me strong.
Oh NYGal...((((((NYG)))))), today is really hard for you and I'm sorry. I can only tell you what I'm sure you've read here many times. The first time I found out about his A I wish so badly that I would have left him then and gone dark. Why? Well, not only because I did everything wrong. Every-thing!
But also because now I see how even if it doesn't change their mind or bring them running home, us being dark and GALing makes them uncomfortable and curious (and suddenly ow is on the back burner even if a little which won't make her happy) and I didn't use that to my advantage when it may have mattered most. When it could have saved me from him dragging the A on for so long.
With that said. I hope that you try and not contact W today.
