"Facing encounters that raise your anxiety tests your maturity, strengthens you if you have the courage to stand fast and let matters unfold, or weakens you if you fall back into reactivity and defensiveness. Making contact, letting others be themselves while you continue to be yourself, and learning to resist automatic reactions strengthens you and transforms your relationships. Staying open and staying calm—that’s the hardest part. You do the best you can."
This sounds a lot like Zues. Reading it does make me feel like I haven't been strong enough to let him be himself and let events unfold organically. That doesn't make me look or feel very good. And staying calm aka STFU.
