"Differentiation is achieved by learning to separate what you think from what you feel—and by learning to be yourself while respecting other people’s right to be themselves. " And this: "Misunderstanding is perpetuated when each one broods over the awful things the other one does and one or both of them eventually finds someone else to complain to." That's what my W did with ow. I don't know... I'm just trying to learn how to be a better listener so we can find common ground. I wish W would badger me like XF is badgering you! The silence here is deafening.
Those are insightful. Thanks NYGal. And it seems as if he is badgering me but I have had many hours even days of silence. Especially during PA.
But I'm sad that you're feeling blue NYG. You're somehwere in the middle right now. Some here have a lot or too much communication (negative most times)..and some none at all. You have some interaction and they all seem to be positive.
Divorce Remedy says to look for and celebrate the baby steps. I really have to re-read it, now, from this new place.
I know that you're still reading, feel free to share any other nuggets you find.
Next snow day MB, Anna, inpain and I will swing by with some takeout, wine and movies.
