I am sorry that you weren't part of the group that participated in the delivery process. A little boy! That's wonderful and I do hope that mother and babe are doing okay.
tfish, hopefully you will be a part of this child's life. It's more important to be there once they come home.
Again, I am so sorry that this went down the way it did.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.