Pam, back to you…and sorry, I haven’t got any attire to add to the penis conversation! But do you remember how we were sitting in Macaroni Grill that day and you were commenting that your H raised an eyebrow at you when you mentioned we were ‘popular’ on this board? I think that ties in here…

We were pretty popular, and people were seeking our advice here. People WANTED to talk to us and valued our opinions! I think we began to really see that we had traits that we needed to change, surely…but in truth we were good people who others wanted to be around. And possibly we began to resent our H’s because they did not outwardly feel the same way…

The missing link, for me, is that I didn’t ACT the same way! He couldn’t feel the same way because as hard as I tried to interact with my husband, it wasn’t natural. It wasn’t the way that I interacted here…like handing one child the top of the strawberry with the green part you can’t eat and handing the other child the bottom half with only the good tasting fruit and wondering why the first child wasn’t as excited over the fruit as the second. They both got a piece of the same strawberry…but the first child got only a little of the good and majority of the bad. You can still call it a strawberry…but who wants that? Okay, even I can see that was a completely stupid analogy, but I’m multi-tasking so it is the best I’ve got!!

PS: for the record, even if this gets me in trouble, don’t beat yourself up too much over HL and Mulligan ‘cause neither was in a position to listen to what you had to say…their minds were made up and they weren’t allowing any input to change their minds.

PPS: you used ! Rolflong…cause you said you would NEVER use !!!!!!!

"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere." --Agnes Repplier, writer and historian