Yes, you are torturing yourself. Sandi and Rednail are right. It is best to avoid social media communication/spying completely. I would put social media in the don't believe any of what she says and only 1/2 of what she does category. It isn't a real connection anyway.
Focus on being the best Tim and Dad that only a fool would leave. GAL and let's see some Tim focused goals that don't have anything to do with her or your relationship,
Hang in there! Cristy
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