What kind of information are you looking for? Somewhere in the land of piecing you will find my last thread, which contains the links to my previous threads if you are looking for the whole story. I’ll try to abridge it though!
I have been with my H for six years. We have one biological child together, who will be 2 in Sept and as of recently I’m raising my sister’s child who will be 5 in July. I am almost 28 and he just turned 29 (though you would never guess he was a day over 18 if your guess was based on his actions).
I’ve been separated for a year and a week. I have been DBing since September (holy moses! That makes seven – eight months of DBing!!) But the true DBing began when Betsey and I teamed up. We soon added Pam to our team and I’m proud to say that these two women have become two of my very close friends! We’ve explored countless personality disorders, childhood trends, etc and because of the interest I have found in these things I decided to get my degree in psychology. I start that endeavor in the fall.
I am a crazymaker, a control freak, and insecure about close relationships. He is a divorced kid and scared for life because of it and is also extremely passive-aggressive, avoids conflict and is as irresponsible as they come. Yet, I love him to death when I decide to.
There was an OW…as far as I know now it was only EA (wait, did I say ‘only’ ) and I am finally coming to a place where I don’t wish death upon her. To my knowledge, he does not associate with this woman any longer but since he never admitted to the affair to begin with, he wouldn’t exactly be forthcoming about cutting all contact. I’m learning to be okay with that.
My goals are detailed out in my past threads, but right now I am working on being the best career-mom that I can be and create the recipe for this potion that PamelaC speaks of. So far I have the ingredients, I am just working on the measurements!
I am still very much a resident of limbo-land, yet I am so much more detached and calm than I was a few months ago. My H has shown definite signs of improvement, although has yet to really bring forth true reconciliation effort. I can honestly say that he is trying though.
I am lucky in that I have never heard him tell me that he does not love me, that he wants a divorce, that he’s happier without me, that we weren’t right for each other, etc. I am not entirely convinced that he does not think these things, but without hearing him voice them I have found the strength to keep going. Because I am cynical by nature, I must also add that I have never heard the words, I want to come home, please can we work through this, I’m sorry I had sexual conversations with another woman, etc. BUT, we’ll go ahead and focus on the positives. This is Betsey’s thread…gotta play by her rules!!
A little longer than a nutshell, perhaps…but there is my summary!
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
) and I am finally coming to a place where I don’t wish death upon her. To my knowledge, he does not associate with this woman any longer but since he never admitted to the affair to begin with, he wouldn’t exactly be forthcoming about cutting all contact. I’m learning to be okay with that. 
