He loves me he loves me not

[Painter]

Hi Julie,

Good to hear from you and that you had such a nice weekend!

I think some men start out wanting to be providers, but then they get resentful at some point. H has been talking a lot about how he feels he has to do it all alone, how I'm not contributing or doing everything at home since he provides the majority of the income, etc. I sense that it has to do with not feeling respected and the 'king of the castle'.

They have a point in that we are modern women who don't cater on them hand and foot, but at the same time we're not the breadwinners.

I don't know if this could fit your situation?

If you feel this way about H, it sounds like you should be very able to drop the rope and DB for your own sake right now. You're right, he has to make changes, too. I can relate very, very much to what you speak about when it comes to character - but then I also think about what pain can do in someone who doesn't have the benefit of a female emotional expressive upbringing.

It's not easy...