Quote: I've been patient to the point of wondering if I'm a head case.
I haven't been waiting near as long as you have, but I know the feeling. I get to wondering if the waiting and the patience and the validation and the caring I've been giving are just time down the drain. BUT, I know that they're not, I know that this consistent generosity of heart is making me a much better person.
Quote: If he goes to MC and gives reconciliation an honest effort, I'm going to have to put in a lot of work to decide to love him again.
Yes. This is probably a given. Betsey, you've been a phenomenal inspiration to me. I've only been at this maybe a few months, but even now I'm starting to reach a point of detachment whereby I know that if W decides to renew our love together, its going to take quite a bit of work to move forward. She will need to learn to let me love her again, she will need to relearn how to feel safe with me, and I will have to continue to be achingly patient for a very long time. I can sense it in the same way some of us can smell snow. It scares me, but i won't give up yet.
Quote: However, as someone who sees the glass as half full...
And thank you for being this kind of person! Its taken me awhile to see life this way, and I honestly want to thank you for being someone who helped me get there. I know I need to use the next few days to re-examine my goals and strategy, but what about you? Easter is a time of true renewal. How might you raise the bar? Make Mr. W see the light? Is there a possibility there may be a way to do this? Some way to re-arrange things in his eyes? I don't even pretend to have the answer, but I felt compelled to ask as you've given me such great feedback...
