I did have one session with Chuck yesterday and found it helpful especially after getting sucked into things on Sunday. He did encourage me that I am ahead of the curve so far and he feels I have challenged her thoughts and the core beliefs that she has currently. It gave me confidence that the path I am walking is a good one and to keep on it and stay patient. I understand that she has trust issues, (not like I don't have them either). I also take some comfort from Sandi in that I shouldn't fear her leaving, I do feel she needs to see the reality of separation and not seeing the kids every day.
My parents split when I was 7 and I know what this life will be, I can be more mentally prepared for this than my W I feel. But who knows what the future will hold.
