Yesterday night I went to STBXW's house.
I went there to tell her I will not divorce her for the time we are living in this foreign country. I also told her I was doing this for my own protection. As long as we are married she is fully insured. Since she is not working, if something would happen to her after the divorce and she would be disabled I would have to sustain her for life, according to our law.
STBXW accepted this well.
We treated each other respectfully.
Nevertheless, I did not see any crack in her armour, crack that I was expecting to find since I detected a change in her behaviour that I reported before.
I keep forgetting not to have any expectations.
And since reading about Fogg's tough times I wonder If I am not living the same illusion PigPen points out : am I being a man happily separated and well adjusted, but a man still living in the fantasy that my W is going to come back?


Me43 W39
M 12y,T 15y
S09,S07
Bomb Jun14
Sleeping separately Jan/Mar15
Share bed Mar/May15
Reconcile Jun15
Aug15 W sais D will happen
D told to kids Sept15
W moved out with kids 01 October15