Throwing up the divorce threat is a form of abuse. I am glad in my case, after taking that threat for so long that it is now behind me and she is having to deal with the consequences of her decision.
Living with your MLCer while receiving those threats is difficult. It bad enough living with the spin without those threats.I am happy to not live with her right now.
This long term depression is a very difficult thing to figure out. They seem to come in and out of Lala land. Even now a year after the D mine says things that indicate she is not in touch totally with her choices. The other day I was talking about leaving my job to look for another. My ex says to me to make sure and get a new job first as "WE" need to money. of course she get no alimony and I have the kids so no child support. I am not sure where the "WE" comes from. While she is still spinning I am glad to have my space.
Cali, I am not recommending divorce. If it happens though, I would not look upon it as a failure nor a bad thing. It will allow you to completely step out of the spin cycle and get some peace. I don"t know if your wife or mine will ever come out of their spin and move off Fantasy island.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"
