Yeah maybe you're right, we totally took each other for granted! I hate the thought of checking his phone etc all the time though :-(

It's his birthday today and I'm picking the kids up from him later, so I wish him a happy birthday when I'm not engaging with him???

Me 35 H 38
Married 4 years together 13 years
Affair started sept 2015
BD 15th Nov 2015- husband left that night
son age 3 daughter age 1