Things I have did a 180 on Having house clean 24-7 Keeping up with how I look Keeping distance from WAS Not asking questions Losing weight- exercising Being more assertive with kids Being more trusting in people
Things I am going to start 180 on..
***No longer waiting on my WAS hand and foot, he could text me across the house to bring him a sandwich and I would. I still cater to him A LOT..not as much but still 60% as much. So while being polite I can offer him food or drink but he can get it himself.
*** spending time reading, i love to read but never actually get to sit and enjoy a good book.
*** Less details. While I go out he asks me 183727 questions about where I'm going,what I'm doing etc and I usually answer them all but I think its okay to just say I dont know or less details
***doing things I asked my WAS to do with me for years that I WANT to do. LIKE rock wall climbing..kayaking..hiking..I want to go try and do the things I want to go.
*** do things ALONE. he even jokes about me being too needy to do things alone. Go to the mall..go to the movies..go to lunch..BY MYSELF. Be more INDEPENDENT.
***GAL during the week I mostly have the kids 24-7. They go to bed at 7:30pm for being toddlers and it makes it hard for me to GAL those days and he always says why should he worry about me he knows where I am. Home with kids. So start taking kids places with me..the park. To walk. To a friends house. Something.
*** no more mind reading and over analyzing. If he hugs me a certain way or says something a certain way I get all paranoid and disect the whole thing..NO MORE.
GAL GOALS are trying to RECONNECT with my old friends. Try to go out at least 1-2x a week even if its to the park and a friends house.
