I am really not in a position to offer advice in this sitch, mainly because I have come to the same conclusion in my own and have not completely accepted that fact.
All I would ask is that you address the questions that keep popping up in my head:
What happens to the truly innocent in this case, your daughter. Will she be better off.
Will Mr. W move back to CA and away from you and, like in my sitch be too far for quick, casual contact. I know you don't have control over this, but it needs addressing.
Since the decision, are you sleeping? Anxious? Calm? Or like me, a troublesome guilt.
I do not want to imply that I favor you choosing one over the other. These are just things going on in my head these past weeks......
