How awful! I'm so sorry your heart has been broken all over again by XF's half hearted attempt at R. Well done for staying so strong, I too think you handled it brilliantly. I don't think you have heard the last from him though. I have a feeling he'll do something similar again. Stay strong, you deserve him to be true and transparent if you are ever to R.
Thanks inpain....I started reading your thread earlier.
Yes it was hard but I just have to remember that accepting that and going through another A would be a lot harder.