Pam...totally hijacking here on my continuous search for wisdom.
As much as I am scared that I have given the impression that all my H and I do is brawl, that is honestly not the case. The majority of our time is spent enjoying each other. I was really struck by your description of how your H "needs the time." I never realized it, but my H thrives on attention - snuggling, being listened to, getting massages. I think when our son was born and it was harder for me to give him that time/attention, he had some real feelings of neglect. I can't imagine how Mr. W must feel, since you, Betsey, have about 850 things demanding your attention at any given moment. Maybe you could set aside time that would be only yours and his? I am just very wowed by the concept of seeing things differently - letting go of bitterness and responding out of love. (that has no relationship to Bets or her situation, just a me comment) You go, Pam! Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
