First of all, I am so HAPPY that you went to the basketball game and rocked in your sexy-thing outfit! Way to go! In a way, I am glad you gave the OW your death stare...damn DB for once.
As for your convo with W. All I can say is "Wow...there's a lot of tender love between you two." It's nice exchange. I am not going to over each one by point by point.
However, I do NEED to respond to this comment:
Originally Posted By: NYGal
Is this a time to maybe invite her to do something non-threatening? Or do I just still lay low? I'm sure most or all will say lay low. But at what point can I take another step, so I can begin to show her new and improved NYGal? (LOL, I know I have a ways to go.)
Down girl! Don't get overly excited here by issuing invitations--I don't care if it's non-threatening or not. That's not the DB way or the timing is right. It was the first real convo with a ton of nuggets here. W is confused, in pain, and knows that she's making mistakes here. It is encouraging to see that she desires IC...that's an important first step for her in the right direction.
You've already taken steps to show a new, improved NYG. Let me count the ways for you:
-Stopped all negative emails -More mindful of how you present yourself -GALing more and more -Listening more -Not trying to fix W or offer solutions
I said we both need time to focus on us, and that our relationship is over. She said, do you think it's over for good? I said, I don't know, I mean the old relationship. She laughed and looked relieved.
^^This is BIG. You're keeping the road home paved smooth and all that jazz. Well played, sweetie.
Looking relieved says it all. Keep the faith and keeping posting here.
