I arrived home and W asked me how was mass, in replied in one word …”Powerful” she then wanted to know so I shared a bit careful not to go to overboard, nor to sound ‘preachy’. ...
As I am driving W points to turn … however its faster to go straight then turn . SMH .. always about control with her she asks for me to drive but she has to be in control of how we get there (I still think this all stems from respect lost along the course of the M and my attempts to regain this … might be a source for future self thought for me, is there an issue here for me or not?), we have fought about this before, this time was no different and she was quick to say “This is why I am done with this marriage”
Hi CaliGuy, thanks for your journaling. It is helpful to me to see the struggle even if W and I ever moved in together. It is daunting...
A couple of thoughts, first your W continuing to bring up divorce to you, is I think frankly a form of emotional abuse. I can't remember where I saw this on the board, but I remember someone saying that when there is a destructive pattern building in a R, the LBS should consider doing something to change the rut that they are in. Perhaps a show telling your W that you are not going to tolerate her talking about divorce anymore, she can file if she wants to but you are not going to discuss it before then, and when she does mention divorce you walk away.
Second, I hate seeing that you can't talk to your W when you hear an exciting sermon or an insight from the Bible. I know I felt like this in my marriage before the BD. And looking back now it feels like we are removing something which we are passionate about. And anytime a husband is passionate about something, that is always attractive.
