I have to send W information on money she owes on our joint credit card. I'm so paranoid about what I say these days. What do you think? This will be the first time I've initiated an email to her in weeks. The statement will be an attachment. Here are the email possibilities: 1)You can leave a check in my bike bag. 2)You can just leave a check in my bike bag. 3) You can leave a check in my bike bag if you want. 4) Please leave the check in my bike bag. 5) Please come up to my office for a visit so I can see you when you give me the check and we can have another relationship talk and maybe talk about reconciliation, pretty please?
Ah....
I notice a pattern here.
Every time you have a heavy talk with W, you want to send an email to W about bills, paying you from annuity, etc. Don't you now see this?! It jumped at me.
My advice is: DON'T.
Why?
You don't want W to associate with opening up to being slammed with an email in her inbox asking for $, pushing her about annuity, or some other money-related item.
In DBing, this is not too different from dog training. Positive reinforcements, right?
