W just called me. She asked me to come get s14 ASAP. W and s14 were fighting all week - he is hanging out w/ his friends, one night 'til 9:30 but he was not responding to her texts. This is bad.
W decided to take my van after all. Despite her red Jag having engine problems, she is giving it to her old neighborhood friend. Their car has blown up, so this will be the 2nd van we have given them.
W had that nervous conversation voice. She rattled off several things. Asked about my Mom, and I told her how great she is doing. Then, bam! she asked if I am bringing the paperwork to let her fill out the divorce attorney's questionnaire to start the divorce.
I am doing better today. I am ok with whatever happens.
I picked up s14 a few hours a ago. Seeing him and texting with d19 is giving me new determination that standing for our marriage is a battle worth fighting.
I mentioned to s14 that his Mom said she had a difficult week with you. S14 told me he has stopped talking to W b/c om continues to live there.
Then I was texting with d19 and I mentioned s14 had gone to bed at 8 pm, and that he must have had a tough week. D19 said that when she was in town last weekend, that it was clear that s14 and om HATE each other. This also confirms what d18 told me when she recently visited.
I have never met om, but I know he has a criminal record involving drinking and anger. S14 is a big strong kid, who is going thru a really tough time. I am scared.
I got a call this morning from the school nurse - s14 is throwing up, and needs to be picked up. I went over and s14 is really sick. I gave him a hug and I texted to W to see if I could drop s14 off at her place.
W texted me back, she slept thru the school phone calls, and we needed to talk.
S14 on the ride said he doesn't want to go back to W's place (with om). I asked him if he wanted to stay at my place. He gratefully said "yes".
I asked him if something happened last night after I dropped him off at W's place. He said "yes, but I don't want to talk about it." So I said "let me know when you are ready to talk." And I dropped it.
We got to W's place, and she called me to see if we could go out for a cup of coffee. I asked if we could do this some other time, and she agreed. I asked if s14 could stay at me place for a few days, and she agreed. S14 picked up his clothes and his PlayStation.
S14 was a new kid on the ride back to my place. More chatty, and he talked about how tired he was - but that he didn't want to go right to sleep - it will mess up his sleep patterns. How mature this young man is becoming!
W needs to get her paperwork in soon, or she loses her free legal aide attorney to file her divorce, and goes to the back of the line of those seeking free attorneys. I just don't want to be around her right now. Keeping s14 safe here at my place is a Godsend.
Thankful to see you have s14 with you, sounds to me like her place is not in his best interest and the fact your w agreed that you keep him does seem to cement this observation .... Along with her realizing her place is not the best for him either, I'll never understand how a person could ever choose to be with someone their children can not get along with, I mean I get there is going to be a period of "that person isn't mommy/daddy" but we all know there is a line and time frame there .... I dunno, then again talking logic about MLCrs proves I'm nuts
It's nice to see you again CaliGuy. Despite my son's best efforts, he crashed and is sleeping soundly.
Yes, you hit it right on the head about om being someone who does not like s14 - and how can W choose this guy who may even be dangerous to s14? It wasn't that long ago W called the police to have om removed from their place.
I'm also thankful S is with you ... keeping you all in my prayers. Nope, can't wrap my mind around anyone being more important than the children. xo, Bttrfly
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
