I watched those Avs last night (and I'm tired)--too bad for Mr. Modano.
Not much to add right now--I'd have to think more, but I do think Pam touches upon something I might say about you (heck, all of us) being oursleves. Of course, it's easier to be ourselves and free with others when we feel a sense of safety--and that's one of the biggest factors missing in our M's right now.
To be simplistic and repetitive, that is why DBing is about taking care ourselves. It's only when we feel more centered and have a greater sense of safety with ourselves that we can feel safety with others. It takes longer to reach that safety with our WAS's because of the history--but I guess Pam is saying that you may want to begin acting "as if" a bit more with H. No pressuring--just be yourself as if H was a cowroker that you'd share with. Obviosuly, you know the limits of this, but it's okay to act as if there are not eggshells to avoid.
The flipside to all this is if Mr. W does need medical attention. You can be patient and kind--but recovery is still well outside your ability to truly impact. Anyway, enjoy the rest of your day.
