Here again after 9 years and struggling 3

[Zues126]

Thanks for your post on my thread. Its 11 pages and I don't have time to start a new thread, so I'll say thanks here.

Yes, OM being part of the new family isn't thrilling...but I've had 18 months to get to this point, and OM#1-5 got me used to the idea. Better than having S11 tell me about the stranger that sleeps over in mom's room.

Honestly I'm at the point where I'm really not threatened in any way. I'm the kids dad, nothing will change that. I know who I am as a person, and I'm not replaceable. I HOPE that OM turns out to be a rockstar and he and XW have a great life, and that he is a positive influence on my children. I'm not hoping XW comes back to me and it would be nice if things worked out for her. I'm skeptical, because if she gave up on the father of her kids and her husband, I don't know how she'll navigate through bigger challenges with someone else down the road, but maybe she'll grow by then, and in any case if relationships these days are nothing more than 5-10 year stretches of shared time then I hope she gets what she wants from it.

As for you...I haven't had a chance to digest all of this yet. One thing I hope is that you've been reading Rain's last thread. It is epic and something that has been on my mind since you mentioned lack of success stories. Rain can't force WAH to not be a cheating scumbag, but if you look at how she handled herself compared to what she's gone through over the past few years she looks like a success to me. Please check it out and I'll catch up soon.