Your boundaries are too complex and there are too many get out clauses.
Your WH is looking for control, another poster here had a similiar response from his WW. Would actually screamed at him in the shower, he's naked and she is ranting. It's about control and invading your space. Sweetheart this is about your WH losing control.
My boundary when my WH kept coming into my home unannounced was to change the alarm codes as I was told I couldn't change the locks as long as his stuff was here. He could enter and take his things a dish towel at a time. So I put all his stuff in storage and gave him the combo.
So boundary, my private space is being reduced. So WH if you enter my Private space (shower,bedroom etc) again, then all the locks will be changed and you will lose your access to that space even if invited.
This boundary must be enforced, immediately have your lock made a two way lock and leave the key your side of the door. This is what I did to enforce my bedroom as WH felt entitled to all access. It's a dominance issue for my WH, V you may have no privacy on anything. That changed inch by inch.
I have concern is has there been a history in your past of invasion of your private space, your body and your mind?
Where did you start to give away this essential personal power?
And to whom?
As always my questions are optional.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
