After reading your story on your relationship, I'm going to refrain from judging your H. All I will say is that he has to grow up and be a man to his W and a better father to his children.
I just want to tell you that you did nothing wrong and you tried every thing you possibly could and more. You are an amazing woman and mother that so many men would love to have you as a life partner. You have been put through a lot. A lot more than many.
Hopefully your H will come out of this a more mature person. He has a long way to go.
Hi Irish, thank you so much for your post. I can't tell you what it means to read this ^^. My H has manipulated me for so long that I actually believe him when he tells me it is all my fault for not getting over his EA/PA. Then I hear other people's opinions and I think maybe I'm not crazy after all!
Originally Posted By: IrishM
You have to not blame yourself for your H. It's all him. You couldn't of done anything to help him. He didn't want to be helped or improve.
I think I need to read this every day to remind myself. Nobody has ever put it like that before but it is so right. He didn't want to be helped or improve. Still doesn't.
Originally Posted By: IrishM
I hope you reread what you just wrote because you blame yourself a lot when you should be looking at H and asking yourself what has H done to fix his issues.
When I reread it it actually left me wondering why on earth I have put up with all of this!? The worrying/sad thing is that H is adamant he did everything he could to fix his mistakes. He didn't even do half the things I know I would have done if it had been me that cheated. I'd have been moving heaven and earth every day until I'd earned back the trust I'd broken, forever. I do wonder why he wasn't/isn't as dedicated.
