Raliced- Joining the band

[Georgiabelle]

Raliced-if this is a highjack, I am terribly sorry. However, I am apologizing in some really cool wedge knee high boots.

Mozza,

I love reading your posts. I am a thinker by nature and your post came across as I was having a spirited text exchange with a male friend. I think many of us hear the phrase, "You have to put yourself out there" (whatever that means....I always envision someone hanging over a balcony over a group of peeps:)And all of this is strictly my opinion......

I think people should date when they are ready..not force themselves to do something because society thinks we are "less than" because we were left or single. I'm not saying that is what you are implying, however, I always feel people think you have to be looking for love. I was in a 6.5 live in R with xb before I met xh. I loved being in a committed relationship. Loved it. Loved being married. Even when the house was crazy. However, I have exactly zero desire to be in a R right now. No one is more shocked at that than me. Of course, everything is fluid and what is today may not be next Thursday. I can very honestly tell you it isn't fear. I'm not afraid to be hurt. I have hurt others and that possibility still exists. It's just that right now, I feel it is important to live a little, hang out with friends, and focus on my kids. I have no idea what Raliced feels, however, I think that is a legit feeling. Maybe I am an anomaly:)

I guess my rambling point is that I don't think Raliced is trying to avoid love. I think she is finding her way in her new life. You are correct in that nothing lasts forever (except death and several have different religious views on that)and I agree that we should live life to the fullest. I guess I just don't think because someone isn't actively seeking love doesn't make them not living life to the fullest.

And I apologize ahead of time if this comes across as argumentative. As I stated, your posts are always very thoughtful. Just sharing another side of the thoughts.