Then Sunday we were leaving for a kids birthday party and she sends me a text from her bathroom "I can't go, I'm having an anxiety attack" I replied with "Ok". About 10min later just as we are about to leave she comes out balling, makeup running etc. and tells me again she can't go. I again just say "Ok". What caused this? Her guilt? Doesn't want to see friends or family? BTW: I jumped in the bathroom to get my comb while she was getting ready and she had a beer in the shower, just out of sight. I'm starting to worry about the drinking.
She is going to have her drama queen moments. The important thing is for you to remain the cool guy.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!