I know that if she is not interested communication will be limited. But she has never stopped me talking or bringing up anything. She may not be fully giving at times but she has never kicked me to touch. That being said she rarely asks me anything about me or my day or my work etc. The lack of interest is there.

She said at the table I don't tell about my day. But when no one shows an interest that became a habit. I have food for thought and Z mentioned some good points (I await the rest of his thoughts with impatience.!). I am no coming across as the person I am and definitely not as who I want to be. It is time to be truer to myself.

My heart wants to open thoses floodgates.

I think my W and I were unhappy about the same things. That is the frustrating part of this.I believe we want the same basic stuff but from different perspectives and now she cannot see that due to her fog. I hate using general terms like fog, but sometimes it fits.

Thanks again Mut


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together