It probably does come across that way but I am not struggling.Or at least I don't feel that I am. But thanks for your concern. I am however posting details so that others could offer insights I may miss. Plus the vets can read better than us. I also seek female viewpoints if any of your fan club care to read my posts over the weekend

I think you are wise to prepare for your future. And it is great to get excited about it. But be careful. Do you really want to sell those cars? You are in your situation and hence have all the info so your decisions are better than our observations.I say careful as sometimes we can cause a self full filling philosophy.

I hope your plans are for YOU and not to show her.

My only advice to you is to concentrate on your attitude, interactions, pma etc . And detaching. One day soon her little tricks will have no affect on you.

I am just curious about one thing. How far are you potentially moving and what are your thoughts on your kids then?

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together